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Jager told Garrow that Obama had “a deep-seated need to be loved and admired, adding that the lived as “an island unto ourselves” in which Obama would “compartmentalize his work and home life.” They did meet her family, then spoke of marriage. coupled with a heightened awareness that to pursue it he had to fully identify as African American.” He notes that for black politicians in Chicago, a non-African-American spouse could be a hindrance. Newhouse Jr., an African-American state senator in Illinois, who was married to a white woman, was targeted with talk that he “talks black but sleeps white.” And Carol Moseley Braun, the first female African-American U. senator from Illinois, whose ex-husband was white, admitted, “an interracial marriage really restricts your political options.” Jager continued, “The marriage discussions dragged on and on,” but Obama exhibited “torment over this central issue of his life .
Jager recalled, “In the winter of ‘86, when we visited my parents, he asked me to marry him.” Jager’s parents were concerned about what Obama would do for a living, and warned Jager to wait a little longer, prompting Jager to tell Obama, “Not yet.” But by early 1987, Jager reminisced, “He became.
Garrow, reveals that before Obama met his wife Michelle, he had asked a half-white, half-Asian he lived with to marry him, later giving her up because he needed to marry a black woman to serve his political ambition. That’s not a reason,’ they heard Sheila yell from their guest room, their arguments punctuated by bouts of makeup sex.)” Garrow writes that Obama cared for Jager, “yet he felt trapped between the woman he loved and the destiny he knew was his.” Still, before his imminent departure for Harvard Law School, Obama asked her to come with him and get married, though Jager says, “mostly, I think, out of a sense of desperation over our eventual parting and not in any real faith in our future.” Despite meeting his wife Michelle after his first year of law school, Obama was not done with Jager; Garrow writes, “Barack and Sheila had continued to see each other irregularly throughout the 1990-91 academic year, notwithstanding the deepening of Barack’s relationship with Michelle Robinson.” The only times Obama communicated with Jager after his marriage, according to Garrow, were a few letters and a phone call to ask whether a biographer had contacted her.
While writing my reader's guide to Barack Obama's memoir, I had a moment of doubt.
I thought I understood the basic thrust of the guy's life -- the need to define himself as black to acquire political power, because being seen as African-American would be hugely advantageous to the career of a quite white guy like Barry Soetoro.
But what if this was all a smokescreen intended to distract from him being gay -- this would hardly be the first time in quasi-autobiographical literature.
If she felt like an outsider, he was a double outsider, racial and cross-cultural. He confessed to her that at times “he felt like an imposter. There was hardly a black bone in his body.” At some point that summer she realized that, “in his own quest to resolve his ambivalence about black and white, it became very, very clear to me that he needed to go black.”What if second husband Lolo Soetoro had decided to insist, out of patriarchal amour propre, that Barry was his own biological son? It would strike me that the difference in hair would be the main stumbling block to getting away with this.
Say he then concocted a story to add plausibility to his claim to paternity that his family had some wooly-haired Papuan ancestors from West Irian in Indonesian New Guinea.