It’s always on his terms which makes me feel a little like a puppet. It’s hard because I am a go-getter, a director, an over achiever and I’m wickedly smart.It seems like a tricky tightrope to strike the balance between being true to yourself and letting him lead, if it’s not something that feels good to me. I also had a VERY insecure childhood which left me with a lot of anxiety as an adult, and insecure attachment. I’m just faced with a lot of emotional stress when I try.” A lot of women have a problem with following a man’s lead and often come up with an argument like the last paragraph.Find a few guys who are just like him and you will never have to so get ahead of yourself or any guy.My method assures your dignity intact in every situation.But of course he has to be real swift because a woman like you doesn’t stay single for very long.
That is pretty bossy and pushy, isn’t it, now that someone puts it that way? He’s having his boundaries and I’m stepping all over them because I feel justified to feel how I feel for whatever reason I hold in my head. “Everything on his terms” is following and trusting his leadership in my book.
Nice dinner, then we went to my place and watched a film. He showered me with compliments, I felt he was really present. Trust builds, too, when people do what they say they will do. I get that I’m getting emotionally attached here, but isn’t that natural?
When we said goodbye he said “talk to you tomorrow”. Isn’t it right to have a flag go up if a guy doesn’t keep his word?
And of course a lot of women will communicate what they want or need to the guys they date just because they feel justified with how well things have been and they are ready for more and they can’t wait.
If they don’t, they feel they are being inauthentic or even worse a pushover giving the men “all the power to dictate everything on their own terms.” Then what follows is usually the men telling them they are not ready, or they don’t want a relationship or they want to take things slow or they are still feeling burned by their previous relationship or ex or a combo of those answers.