Intimidating looking people
As I’ve gotten to know her better she’s opened up about having a low self-esteem.
She feels safer when she can hide behind that perfect surface. An example is a psychopath without insecurities who just wants to intimidate others. Ironically, it’s often those who feel the most need to compensate for their insecurities who come off as the most intimidating.
In other words, there’s no reason for her to be intimidating.
She doesn’t use it as a tool to suppress others (even though that’s how others often take it).
First of all, here are two changes in mindset we need to understand: Few walk around in life trying to intimidate others.
Often, they don’t even understand that they are intimidating.
The foundation of CBT is to first be aware of what we’re feeling.
But when I ask them to probe deeper, they’re surprised to find a lot. Mini exercise: It’s hard to think about shortcomings when we’re standing eye to eye with someone who intimidates us.
“Here everyone has a fancy Ph D title and I’m just a retail employee” or “Here everyone’s tall and I’m short.” As I’ve written about before, it’s a losing game to try to make people like us.
We want to make people like being Lesson learned: When you’re around people who intimidate you, don’t fall into the trap of trying to prove yourself to them. Instead, keep to the universal principles of likability.
– Alexis I got lots of questions about that from both men and women.
Some examples that came up was talking to your boss or manager, talk to tall people, good looking people, mean/unpleasant people, and those you’re attracted to.